Here in Boston, leftover snow from last week’s blizzard lingers in separate lumps on the ground. My restless mind meanders to Maui, wishing I didn’t have to wait in a strange neighbourhood in South Bay, outdoors in the cold, indefinitely for the bus to take me to the metro station. My hands are beginning to freeze as I nervously navigate my old iPhone for the next bus to appear on the Citymapper schedule.
I have just given a cultural concert of music from New Zealand to Hawaii, including the soothing piano music of the six-time Grammy winner Daniel Ho and leading a singalong on my mahogany XS Soprano ukulele with the song “Tiny Bubbles” by Don Ho (no relation). I had concluded my cultural themed concert with “I hope my music took you somewhere far away and warm, on this first day of spring.”
Nearly two hours later, I step off the metro and walk home. As soon as I return to my apartment, I take off my brown suede boots to step inside, barefoot in my dark woollen socks. After removing my black leather gloves, unwrapping my turquoise blue pashmina scarf, and taking off my duck-down-lined jacket, I see a notice on Facebook messenger: Listen to Boston Globe Podcast from Love Letters.
Sometimes I think the universe is sending me messages. In her podcast, the columnist Meredith Goldstein brings to life topics that everyone can relate to. Her interviews with real people shed new insights. The first episode “Getting Under to Get Over” is about break-ups. As Goldstein is a columnist not a therapist, she warns her listeners that she can’t give advice. But her interviewees are free to impart good remedies for break-up.
Why am I writing about it here in my Maui blog? No matter where you are, you can listen to this podcast just as you can easily read her columns online. Sometimes you have to rely on the Internet for the stuff you need or miss, like listening to Classic FM Radio Station out of England via Pandora Radio on my iPad. Living on a remote island means you shop online, listen to Tune-In Radio, Spotify, Pandora, and regularly use Skype and Facetime to talk to your loved ones.
So what does Goldstein say about break-up? Confide in your friends, go on holiday, hide in your room, or bury yourself in work? On the contrary, her first interviewee has tried everything but the one thing that cured her of longing for her ex was getting a new guy. The new kid in town replaced the old, so to speak.
So far in the podcast, I’ve only heard the bit about the best remedy for a break-up: jump into another relationship. It has worked for a divorcee who wooed a married woman, a grieving widow who turned to her teacher, and a heart broken pensioner who joined an online dating site.